Saturday, October 9, 2010

Well... I got a text from Joni (the intern who will be directly involved in the communication between us and Nikita). She advised the ultrasound on Thursday went well, but still couldn't see the gender. I think this kid is trying to teach me patience...(ain't goin' to happen, lol). She said the heartbeat sounded good. Nikita has the ultrasound pictures and will be giving them to Joni in about 2 weeks and then Joni will meet with us. Can't wait! I feel like it's not ''real'' until we get the pictures! She will have her last ultrasound on Nov 4th. So hopefully we'll be able to find out the gender then (fingers crossed). It's funny because we had names picked out, but now that we know we have been matched, new names are popping up and its making it difficult to decide. I go back and forth between which gender I would prefer (granted it really doesn't make a difference either way). I know Derek and Steve (Derek's dad) really want a boy, but I know my mom and family want a girl (since I have 4 nephews and 1 niece). Seems like all my friends are having boys, so a boy would give them someone to play w/ but then a girl would be nice because it would be different. Who knows?!? lol... I'll let you know when I find out more!

P.S. Found a quote online today "Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother"- Oprah Winfrey.... so I put my own spin on it "Being a parent involves more than just Biology"-Maggie Beggs :oP

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Well... it's official and it feels great!! Due date Feb 14th! The birth mom's name is Nakita. She's 23. She has 2 boys right now, one is 6 and the other is 3. Her kids are her world and she wants the best life for them, which is amazing. She spends a lot of time with them and is involved with their school and part of the PTO. She realizes that she cannot afford another child financially and she is unable to give them what they need. She is getting governmental assistance now and decided it would be best for her unborn child to give them up for adoption. I have a lot of respect for her in making that decision. So we have officially been matched with Nakita. She had a doctor's appt a few days ago to find out the sex but the umbilical cord was in the way and they couldn't tell. She was going back in today to find out, but we haven't heard anything yet :o) She has said that she wants us to be in the delivery room with her and she has said she does not want to hold the baby after its born because its not 'her' baby it will be 'ours'. Which I think is really neat. I'm sure it is going to be difficult for her, but she is preparing herself and has a lot of support from the agency. Although it's not 100% for sure with adoption, we are very excited and confident that it will go through :o) Thanks for the prayers! I'll keep everyone updated when we get the word on the gender!

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Ok Folks, I realize it's been a while since I posted everything. Part of that was because neither me or Derek heard anything from Molly. Of course we became frustrated. Our friend Terrie (who also works with Molly) has been wonderful and very encouraging. We explained that even if there isn't any real "news" to share, it would still be nice to receive a phone call, email or letter, explaining that she is still working on finding us a birth mom. We took a huge risk with choosing Molly to be by our side during this journey. We knew that the other birth mom did not chose us, but we never knew whether she still had a successful adoption with the other family. We found out the answer was yes (which was very comforting and we are happy for them). The other birth mom that was due around the 20th of August, took their baby home and decided not to adopt. We couldn't help but wonder if Molly's lack of commitment had played a role in that or not, we will never know.

We got a call from Molly on Wednesday, Sept 1st. She advised us that she had just gotten in touch w/ a birth mom that was going to be induced on Friday Sept 3rd. The baby would be bi-racial, and the mother had smoked pot and drank alcohol while pregnant. She also had not taken any prenatal vitamins, as she should have. We thought about the situation, and unfortunately decided to wait. We both really want an all Caucasian baby, but also didn't want to take the chances of the baby having complications due to the mothers stupidity. We did end up getting a card in the mail that basically encouraged us to keep our chin high.

September 30th (my birthday) we got another call from Molly. She advised us that her intern Joni had been working with a birth mom that is due in February. The birth mom decided to trust in Joni to chose her an adoptive family. Joni decided to pick us!!! So we are officially "expecting"! We are sooo excited. Words cannot express the feeling. We are going to meet with Joni on Thursday and I will fill in a little bit more information then :o) Thanks for the prayers!